Broken Heart Has To Heal
Love is a gift of lifetime. One always wishes to stay with the loved one for whole life. Love relationship starts and develops in following stages: Attraction, Care, Love and Dedication.
 
Attraction brings them together. Care makes the step to build a relationship. Love is strong mutual involvement. Dedication is âloosing selfâ for the other one. Dedication is the highest stage where the lover dissolves self identity in beloved. At this stage, ego is nowhere. This is feeling of ONENESS. In Hindu religion, marriage is tradition for developing, attaining and maintaining oneness.
All love relationships doesnât end to dedication (here marriage). Several reasons are responsible for this. Either or both individual are not ready for dedication. Family beliefs, caste, religion, circumstances and many more parameters act as a âhindranceâ for a relationship to upgrade from love to dedication. In such case, both the lovers suffer from pain and grief. Life seems miserable to them. Few may attempt suicide because for them âFailure in relationship is equivalent to LIFE LOSTâ.
But Life is a grand and divine entity than a relationship. We are born on this earth with some larger objective. To make the living worthy, life should be lived with its full spirit by every individual. Broken love relationship ends up with broken heart feeling. One has to COME OUT of it.
If you feel heartbreak,
- Remember him/her and the good time spent together. Cry as much as you can.
- Gradually ignore the thoughts about him/her and the relationship. (It is not that easy, but not that difficult.)
- To forget beloved is crucial, so give yourself some judicious time.
- Divert the mind to things you like (or used to like before involved in relationship)
- If you and your beloved are strong determined person, give the relationship a âUâ turn and new name. Determine the limits of new relationship. To maintain the limits of this new relationship should be responsibility of both individuals.
- Identify the larger objective of your life and indulge yourself in its attainment.
Once found that the person whom we love is happy, broken hearts start healing. [If his/her happiness is not giving you peace, you never loved him/her.]
Nobody on this earth can make you happy, if you donât want to be.
Nobody on this earth can make you sad, if you donât want to be.
It is you and only you, who can make yourself happy or sad.
jikitsha
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October 7th, 2009 at 11:36 am
How do you heal a broken heart and how long does it last to heal?
Found out that a guy friend of 1 year I liked has recently started a relationship with this girl he has only talked for 2 weeks. And then I found out that he had feelings for me and saw me more than just a friends but he thought that I didin’t feel the same so he never said anyhting and then I told him about my feelings i had for him. He said that he is sorry things didnt turn out like I expect it but that he hoped I would have said something earlier on of our friendship. I mean he is a great guy and friend. Just right now its hard to be his friend but I still want us to be friends.He also wants to be friends. I’m just waitng for my heart to heal and accept this. *sigh Someone please help this broken heart heal before college starts again.
Thanks
October 7th, 2009 at 4:38 pm
Some hot lemon tea and a good cry usually works for me. You know you are ready to move on when you find the new guy attractive.
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October 7th, 2009 at 4:40 pm
your first one is going to take a ilttle longer but after that maybe 2 weeks is the most
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October 7th, 2009 at 4:42 pm
i know how you feel, i have a broken heart too it takes forever for it to heal but you can make your mind forget it for now ! move on better things will come along just wait i found out that better things are in my future, i met this great guy right now he is fighting for our country in Iraq!! i’ll see him in Dec. i cant wait!!!
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October 7th, 2009 at 4:44 pm
I may give a situation but do not take it very seriously because things may end up another way…
Maybe if he is for you, now’s not the right time yet. Loving someone may be as fast as first sight but feelings for loving someone takes time to develop. You have to understand that he still wants to be friends with you because he loves you - but not how a relationship is supposed to be.
Do not be jealous of whom he is having a relationship with - the more you envy his girlfriends, the more hurt you’ll end up.
Try not hurting each others feelings - you have to learn to forgive and eventually you should forget that you have hurt each other.
Accept each other as who you are, it may be painful at first - but the longer you resist the pain in your emotions, the stronger you will become.
And here, do not EVER think that boys will make your world go round. There’s something better and it will come out eventually. You should believe in yourself.
I Hope that this could at least lessen the pain you feel.
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