Grief-How To Deal With It
Grief is an integral part of almost everyone’s life. Whenever you go through the loss of a near and dear one, you go through a grief process. Grief is experienced physically and psychologically. Crying is an integral part of grief process. In cultures where crying is acceptable, loss is borne more readily than in those in which crying is discouraged.
When we have lost a near and dear one, it is initially difficult to accept the loss. This is natural. As time passes, the loss becomes easier to bear from a psychological perspective. But emotional expression is still an integral part of grieving. If the person is not allowed to grieve due to societal or family pressures, other problems like depression or anxiety may arise. From Nature’s perspective, once someone has died, it is important that the(unconscious) mind accepts the loss. Once the unconscious mind accepts the loss after going through crying and sadness , life becomes easier.
A simple exercise will bring benefit to all those who want to deal with grief of a loved one.
Exercise: Close your eyes and imagine seeing the lost loved one in front of you. Talk to the person in your mind as if the person was standing in front of you. Treat the image as a real person. Having finished saying what you would like to say, bid the person GOODBYE and see the person go. You will notice feeling like crying or feeling sad.
Do this exercise everyday at least once, preferably before sleeping, till you start to feel comfortable seeing the person go. By that time your sadness will have reduced to a remarkable extent. This exercise can save you many months of counseling and a lot of money if done as advised.
Pradeep K Chadha
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October 19th, 2009 at 7:47 pm
What do I do with my grief? How do I deal with it?
My aunt has a brain tumor that will keep coming back and not matter what I think, my hope keeps diminishing. I think praying is a waste, how many people still die anyway?
I was hoping to get some hope here, but seems only one has. You’ve already put her in the ground. I don’t even live near her. But I am close with all my aunts. My mom has 4 sisters.
October 20th, 2009 at 12:49 am
You’ve hit the nail on the head. Everyone dies someday.
I’m sorry to hear about your aunt.
Death is a part of life. It isn’t always our favorite part; but nevertheless it is always here. You need to accept that she is dying and help her have the best death she can have. It is more about her than it is about you, you know.
Help her write card, contact people she wants to communicate with. Help around the house, take her to chemo or radiation treatments. Visit her in the hospice. Work on a website together. There are a million ways you could help ease her time here and show her you love her and appreciate her. Keep a journal of how you feel. Feel free to mourn. But, don’t waste her time with your mourning. Make the most of what she has left.
These actions will help you process the grief and fear you are feeling.
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October 20th, 2009 at 12:51 am
if the tumor is malignant then the doctor should have advised you to this effect.
usually if a malignant tumor is to far along you get that advise from your doctor along with the time expectancy.
if it hasn’t progressed to the point that it’s irreversible, then there is hope to prolong that person’s life with healthy foods herbs and maybe some help from the health store where they sell vitamins and herbal remedies. these things can’t hurt. if you get good advise from a doctor that they, sometimes, have in those stores, life can be prolonged and even cures can happen.
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October 20th, 2009 at 12:53 am
If its a pituitary tumor it will keep coming back, but I’m not sure what kind it is. Just dwell on the good times you and aunt have had together. Keep you aunt laughing and talk about good things and it will take her mind and yours off the of her tumor.
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October 20th, 2009 at 12:55 am
I lost my mother to head and neck cancer a year and a half ago. Through all the stress that she went through she never gave up prayer and God. She prayed that she would beat the cancer, but the tumor never went away. So she started praying to God to give her strength to accept the things she can’t change. I lost my faith in God and was so angry for letting this happen to my mother. But what I learned from my mothers illess and death, is to enjoy life and don’t take people for granted.
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October 20th, 2009 at 12:57 am
I’ve heard that in some East countries people cry when man is born and celebrate when man dies. They believe that when man is born he did some wrong things in past life and he returned back as reincarnation in new body to fix it. When man past away than they think they’ve successfully did their main job in this life and have opportunity to go to divinity.
Maybe you should try to change some of your believes.
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October 20th, 2009 at 12:59 am
oh my goodness.. i am truly sorry. brain tumors are something that no one should go through. i am truly sorry about everything that has happened to you. i believe in God and i will say this. i have a 99 year old grandfather that goes in and out of conciessness and i feel awful. but at the same time i am glad he is still here. i morn for his suffereing each day and then i also have a brother that wants nothing to do with me along with a niece i can never see again and also, may i add that my best freidn deserted me in my time of need. so you see, everyone has downfalls. some worse than others. just cope with it day my day, stay with her, or send a card, talk on the phone or just write down your enotions. TALK TO SOMEONE!
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