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Coping With Miscarriage: Where Do You Even Start?

October 21, 2009

Coping with miscarriage can be very difficult. Oftentimes, it comes with raging emotions associated with depression, fear, guilt and sadness. More often than not, couples or women in particular, who have just had a miscarriage find it difficult to go see their friends, go back to work and go on with their daily activities. Some also worry about their future satisfaction in issues of reproduction .– Can I be a good mother? What is my worth as a wife? In this article, we will give you a simple guide on coping with miscarriage.

Dealing with your emotions. The most important part in coping with miscarriage is by engaging yourself in the  different emotions that you are naturall bound to feel. Wallow and feel the loss and the pains of losing a child. Do this openly and sincerely. Most women experience shock especially during the first few days of the miscarriage, especially if the event was unforeseen. After shock, grief comes in. When you grieve, let yourself lose. Scream if you want to. Cry if you want to. The important thing is that you let everything out. Anger and guilt may also be common. Some women even get bitter and find themselves irritated when they see a happy pregnant woman pass by. These are absolutely normal.

Grieve – As already mentioned, grieving is an important step in coping with miscarriage. You can take a break from your daily activities so you can give yourself the chance to remember and reflect on the loss of your child. Other couples also choose to commemorate their loss by simple activities like planting a tree in the backyard, making a donation in his memory, holding a memorial ceremony or adopting a puppy. Another modern of way of coping with miscarriage is by making a website dedicated to your lost child and sharing your experiences to  moms from all throughout the world. Doing so will make you realize that so many women share the same sentiments that you have.

Share your grief to your partner – It’s not only you who lost a child. Your partner is also grieving over the loss of a loved one. During this hard time, you need to support one another. Stay close and connected. Take this period as the perfect time for the both of you to reaffirm your relationship and bond with each other. Set a quiet time for the two of you to reflect on your loss. You can take a walk, watch a movie or even just cuddle with each other.

Talk to a therapist – For some women, having a counselor helps a lot. You may also talk with your doctor or midwife. They will not only be there to listen to you. They may also be able to give you tips on how you can ensure a healthy pregnancy in the future.

Write – Just like your grade school, being true with your feelings and writing everything that you feel in a piece of paper can be very therapeutic.

While coping with miscarriage may be very difficult, the good news is that more often than not conception after miscarriage oftentimes lead to healthy and  full-term pregnancies.

Sandra Wilson
http://www.articlesbase.com/pregnancy-articles/coping-with-miscarriage-where-do-you-even-start-1222932.html

6 Responses to “Coping With Miscarriage: Where Do You Even Start?”

  1. meka Says:

    HOW TO COPE WITH A MISCARRIAGE HAD A M/C LAST WEEK..WHEN SHOULD WE START TO TRY AGAIN.ANYONE ELSE BEEN THROUGH?
    THIS HOW DID YOU DEAL WITH IT?I’M 25 AND WANT TO HAVE A BABY BEFORE MY 30′S

  2. Jennifer Says:

    I have and so have 1 in 3 other woman. It’s awful. You’ll think you’re through it and then it will come up again… Wait 3 months and try again. I’m pregnant with twins!!!
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  3. sara explains it all Says:

    i am also 25 and i had a miscarriage in july. I was only about 5 weeks fortunately. I also want to have a baby before i’m 30 so its a little stressful but i have to just think that everything happens for a reason whether we like it or not. I started trying again right away so i’m hoping this is my month as i’ve been ttc for 3 months prior to the m/c…

    good luck to you and take one day at a time as hard as that sounds…
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  4. zabbydogg Says:

    I miscarried earlier at the end of September and I am already trying again. It is dealt with like any other major disappointment. You just keep going.
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  5. infinatly yours Says:

    its heartbreaking, but apparently you are more fertile after a miscarriage..
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  6. b.k6606 Says:

    i had a m/c last march and have been ttc since. we have 3 wonderful kids already so it was very hard on us and them. you think you wont get through it but you do…..lots of baby dust your way!!! good luck
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